I usually enjoy reading the Dear Abbey column, but I was dismayed when I read a recent request from a woman asking if it was okay for her to fantasize about another woman when she made love with her husband. The author of Dear Abbey said to go ahead, “sexual fantasies are normal.” Did I miss something? My understanding is that thoughts are the place of entrance for all sorts of baser impulses whether they are acted on or not. And that can lead to actually acting on those impulses.
What about the people who view pornography? It is known to progress into worse stuff. I know an attractive, smart man who got caught with kid porno, and is now in jail. Or what about the person who mentally plans revenge on someone who has wronged them, takes a drink to much, and actually hurts or kills them? You may think I am overreacting, but am I?
Thoughts are private. We can have an interior life all of our own without anyone blowing the whistle on us. Movies have been made where thoughts have been miraculously revealed in comedy routines, and we laugh for we have been guilty of the same thing. We can think dark thoughts while we act and talk in socially-accepted ways, and no one is the wiser, unless they are good at reading body language. You may say that thoughts aren’t hurting anyone, thus they are harmless.
Perhaps the greatest harm dark thoughts can inflict is on the purity of the mind and soul. Some scriptures come to mind:
Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.”